How’re you doing? I hope you’re doing well. Apparently Valentine’s day is coming up, do you have a date? I hope you do. And if you don’t, fuck that shit, ammrite?!
Dating has always been a very simple and thought out topic for me. But as simple as it is, I find it very hard to explain it to people. And so I thought I’d write about it!
I have never dated anyone. BAAAM WHAT?! REALLY?!!??! HOW?? WHY?!?!
Yeah no it’s not a big deal, I just don’t like dating. It’s just a bit meh.
I mean I dated this one guy for six days in seventh class and we only met twice and then just stopped or whatever.
If anyone one of you reading this have never dated, you would know how annoying it is when people act so shocked or assume you’re super conservative when you tell them you’ve never dated. My personal favorite moment is when people tell me, “I thought a girl like you would have a boyfriend” or “but you’re so pretty?!”. They usually mean it as a ‘compliment’ but it never comes off that way. What do you mean a girl like me?! lol
I, for one, can’t date just for the sake of it. I only like hanging out with two of my closest friends and just the thought of me sacrificing my afternoon nap to drink coffee with some guy that doesn’t know I’m severely lactose intolerant is enough to put me off of dating.
Surely there are times when I forget how to breathe because my crush asked me to lend him a pencil, but every time my crushes or anyone for that matter asks me out, I freak out completely and refuse. And even though I hate myself for it sometimes, I have never regretted not dating. I really enjoy being single and I know for a fact that I am not in a place where I can put any effort into anyone. I also lose interest in people really quickly and it’s just rude to date people and get bored of them in a month, innit?
Some say I have commitment issues and maybe I do. But I’m only 17 and I think it’s better to have commitment issues at this age than to believe your boyfriend is going to marry you or something cringy like that. Talking of commitment, I don’t think I would waste mine or more importantly someone else’s time if I’m not dating them for a stable future, I can’t date someone just to break up with them.
But I understand why people date. It’s better to make memories with someone while you can than to keep thinking about the future like I do. It’s better to appreciate someone even though you might not last, because you might just improve someone’s life even if it’s for a short time. It’s better to experience life with different people or share it with just one person. It’s pretty cool.
So if you’re one of the people that are into dating, do me a favor and give it a shot this Valentine’s day. Ask out your crush, it’s better to get embarrassed than to keep hiding your feelings. They might just agree. And let me know what happens in the comments!
And if you’re one of the people like me that are not about that life, we can all laugh at the people that do take my advice and ask people out. Riya Out!