I don’t usually dwell on past but I had nothing to write on and a friend suggested I write on this so here goes. This post may or may not be sad.
I have never had depression. I may be a sad soul but fortunately, I have never reached a point where I am depressed. Sadness as a mood is my natural state but depression is much more and much serious than just a mood. And it’s something people don’t really talk about so here it goes.
I know someone that in the past had depression. Not gonna name the person, of course but let me tell you one thing. It’s fucking hard living with it. I can’t ever imagine how hard it must have been for that person to cope with it.
They’ve always told me that depression never goes away. You may try to suppress it but it always comes back. So it’s best to understand and live with it. Let’s call the person ‘A’.
A has always been close to me and I have seen her go through depression and how much she has improved. Of course I can’t write on depression because I don’t know two shits about it but as a person who has seen someone close to them suffer from it, I can confirm that people who deal with it need all the support they can get.
When A was struggling with her mental health, I remember thinking that maybe she just doesn’t want to work. Because usually, she was a workaholic and suddenly she just left everything and I guess that was it. Don’t make my mistake. It’s not that they don’t want to work but when you have so much going on inside you, you just can’t work. It was almost as if nothing mattered to her. And it was hard. For us but hardest for her.
And that’s what I guess people need to understand. I would hopefully never know what depression feels like and wish the same upon anyone reading this. But as people who may meet someone with depression, we must support them always. They are going through a lot, give them their time and space. I remember that A used to cancel out on everything and just sit and cry. Sometimes you just need to accept it. People who deal with depression may improve a lot and then snap back to square one in one day, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t want to work. Remember when I wrote, it never really goes away?
Another thing that A has always appreciated is that no one made a big deal out of her condition. It’s not that we didn’t take care of her, we just never made her feel as if she’s different. A little encouragement, some jokes, a shoulder to cry on and ice cream is all they expect from others. I am so proud of A for coming so far and doing so much more with her life than she ever thought she could.
This post really wasn’t for someone who is dealing with depression, it was more about people like us around them who have no clue what is going on inside them. We need to understand them or at least try.
You can’t cure someone’s mental health, but you can be there for them as they try to overcome it themselves. Because when they’re fighting with themselves, they may fall and that’s where we should be. Behind them, holding them so they could stand back up. Riya Out!
PS- If anyone has any advice on what to do when someone is dealing with mental issues or what others should do to support them, please leave them in the comments. Let’s make this a support group.